The Pain of Emotional Fallout from Blame and Shame
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In recent days I’ve seen evidence of liars being exposed. Habits of blaming others is naturally turning back on those who seek to manipulate and control. Being blamed, if we are afraid of it, activates our shame receptors and gives others an open door to weaponize it against us.
If you are someone who blames everyone but yourself, then feeds off the shame… prepare for life to get gradually harder and more painful. This includes self-blame.
But there’s a way to move through any correction for this this unloving habit — simply feel your own emotional pain rather than avoiding it by projecting it towards others and multiplying it exponentially. Nothing is more damaging to one’s own soul.
I made this Soul Circle to assist those who have been the recipient of blame and shame. It’s time to release that habit of absorbing others’ judgments and God, the Universe is eager to assist. All you have to do is want it.
Meditate with this Soul Circle to receive guidance and wisdom on this subject.
On a hike in the Southern San Juan Mountains a circle called to me. It wanted to be made on the topic of courage. (See chapter 5 of What It Means To Serve) I was on a steep slope, making my own switchbacks so as not to slip and fall, moving slowly downward after the accomplishment of having hiked up that same slope with a reward of lunch and a beautiful view.
Back home, making the circle, it was drawn as the lower right image. That’s what started as “right side up.” As I meditated with this soul circle, I felt the urge to turn it on it’s head (upper left). That’s when it’s message became clear.
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Courage requires us to view a problem from every angle.
The way I had drawn it, it felt like that speeding snail-eye would be traveling a half-circle in an endless, hamster wheel loop. The momentum would carry it forward again and again, just to arrive back at the same place.
When I flipped it over, what had seemed like confinement, now felt more like a porous, yet protective shell, bubble, space which would roll along with the snail, providing traction. Like an nonthreatening tank, slow and steady, going where others might not be able to. Or one of those human hamster balls that allows us to walk on water.
Courage often requires us to look at situations from different angles in order to take the next step. Like the four options above, a couple of those feel precarious, unwise. Yes, the best option may be uphill but once you get to a certain elevation, the path will level out and pick up speed, (lower left).
We don’t have to tackle problems in the way they first appear, in fact, if we do that, those problems will likely persist. We can *circle* each difficulty until we see a useful perspective, the exact expansion of awareness which that problem came to show us. When we reach the top of the ridge, where the uphill problem is behind us, we get to use natural laws to move us forward from there with very little effort.
In my experience there is an added bonus: I can feel grateful for the problem, privileged that it chose me. And, to take it a step further, I can give the problem a gift — the opportunity to fulfill its purpose, its reason for existing.
Who doesn’t want that?
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Learning more about cymatic patterning has led me to feel physically and emotionally different than I did last week. Simply being more aware of natural patterns, which are created by frequencies, vibrations, other things unseen. This article isn’t any kind of scientific explanation of anything, I just launch into experimenting and see what happens.
I’ve been meditating on possibilities and questions such as:
“What sort of pattern does the feeling of love cause my cells to settle into?”
I meditate on filling myself and everything around me with Love, which always travels with it’s devoted sidekicks, Gratitude and Appreciation.
“What if we just let ourselves fall apart instead of years, decades, or a lifetime resisting that very thing, pretending to be strong with all the ways it shows up, useful or destructive? Wouldn’t the chaos in our bodies and souls naturally reorganize into pleasing, healthy patterns once we release all the fears behind our resistance to just being vulnerable?”
I already know the answer is yes, only because I have fallen apart.
The new information is the visual science behind cymatics. For me, it’s a new level of understanding rather than simply knowing through experience.
What we don’t realize is that if we just give ourselves permission to fall apart — or even if I can be a space for someone else to fall apart and it doesn’t freak me out — the actual chaos can be very short-lived because automatically, the laws of the universe will start jiggling us back to a state of health and calm.
By ‘chaos’ I mean:
– body tremors, etc.
As your whole being releases whatever it is you are most afraid to let come to the surface. Once it’s acknowledged, accepted, and LOVED it can start reorganizing into something more structurally sound.
( Caveat: this process has to be engaged with a sincere desire to feel and be responsible for your own feelings, not a new drama for gaining sympathy or to get rescued. )
The Love part is the key ingredient. Love the feelings for what they show you. Love the relief that comes from releasing all of it. Love that you were brave enough to look at it. Or Love it all for the person who is falling apart in front of you. Then Love whatever feelings come up in yourself in response to their dismantling. Maybe fall apart right alongside them if needed. Allow God’s Love to enter both of you if you feel that connection.
If you truly surrender to this process, it will settle out and you will be functioning again before you know it. Down the road, a new level of falling apart will likely be needed. It will happen in manageable intervals, and you will change each time. Each time will feel easier and more familiar. Believe it or not, it will eventually feel welcomed because you’ll know you need to just fall apart for a while and allow your nervous system and cells to recalibrate.
You and the thoughts that got you to any breaking point just have to get out of the way so God or natural forces can take care of it. If you don’t feel God as a reality, just let the natural functioning of the Universe take over.
Go ahead, fall apart.
You can certainly do it on you own but if you’d like a loving space to try it out, contact me to have your own Soul Circle assist you through any breakdown, big or small.
Butterflies get all the glory with their delicate beauty and whimsical flight. Everyone wants a resurrection story; to be the caterpillar who only had to discover its true self.
But I am not a butterfly, I’m a snail.
Snails get a bad rap. Yeah, we’re slow but we are purposeful, diligent and we know how to ride the current whenever needed. I don’t know about other snails, but there are entire WORLDS going on inside my shell. Maybe that’s why people want to yank us out all the time, they’re trying to snatch the the riches of our inner worlds.
The coolest thing about snail shells is that they show the mathematics of nature, the endless logic of the Golden Ratio, the Fibonacci Code, upon which much the Universe is built, including the proportions of our human bodies.
But society tells us there’s something wrong with our shell of perfect, natural proportions and we need to come out! We get the message that it’s a bad thing to be ourselves, in our natural state, made the way we are. But we’re no good without our shells. We need them to protect the delicate operations that go on within, where the real work happens.
We may seem mysterious or even boring, but it would be destructive to everything, especially to myself, to discard my shell, or an insult to God which goes like this, “I don’t like what you made me so I’m going to pretend to be something else because other people believe it is better than what you had planned for me.”
I’ve tried it. It’s devastating
And I don’t have to come all the way out to experience the world. I can keep my shell with me because that’s how it works to be a snail. Yes, it looks like it would be a burden to someone like a butterfly but I can handle it. I am that strong.
I’m happy to let you see inside the inner chambers of my shell, if you value, respect and appreciate the Divine wisdom of making some of us snails. Who I am and how I operate was not by my own design. My only task is to do what I’m made to do.
And this is why I write and make art. To let you see the scenic route of someone on a quiet journey.
I help people see themselves and sometimes hidden parts of the universe because of who I am. It’s not necessary for me to overcome the limitations of being just a snail. Inside my shell is a wondrous and beautiful place.
I travel the cosmos, absorb and report. I’m happy to be a snail.
Blessings to all you beautiful, diverse creatures.
The earth feels our emotions, whether we like it or not.
Right now the earth is grieving. Can you feel it?
It’s not likely we can feel the earth if we refuse to feel our own grief. Collectively, humanity denies, numbs, medicates, blames, diverts and distracts from all the uncomfortable feelings. Mother Earth won’t hold it for us any longer.
Get ready for a global shedding of decades, maybe centuries of sorrow.
Why now? The message I am getting is that the beautiful environmental system of our planet is designed to sustain, filter, cleanse and release A LOT. However, as we continue to add to it, there comes a saturation point, just like in our own, individual bodies. But the earth is much wiser than we are, she will save herself rather than suffer and die from terminal illness. Not because she is selfish, the goal is to assist humanity in our continued residency here.
It’s not just about environmental policies and practices. What about our own personal environments? If we each were deeply, holistically purified ourselves, a polluted global environment would not be possible. Yes, grow your own food, recycle, etc. but please, the earth is begging you to stop skipping over your emotions. Feelings of rage, blame, control, revenge, greed, thievery, fear, victimhood, and grief projected outward towards others pollute EVERYTHING. Visible and invisible fields of beauty shrivel and die, drowning in unfelt emotions.
Denied feelings don’t actually get buried, they spew outward towards everyone you encounter, toward pets, kids and those you never meet. They turn the air energetically gray and seep into the soil to be absorbed back into all of us.
The earth is bursting with human, emotional waste.
We can each choose to voluntarily feel all the way through wrongs done to us, repent for wrongs we’ve done to others, forgive ourselves and everyone else, cleanse, purify. Otherwise, natural laws will gladly assist you toward feeling in a BIG way.
Disasters are great for nudging humans out of denial.
A world of feelings are on the horizon. so prepare yourself. One way or another we will all be gifted with a purification. “We can do this easy, or we can do this hard.” I choose to go ahead and feel temporary pain which leads to greater health in and around each of us.
————————- Soul Circles and Energy Forecast Readings can assist in unlocking old, unconscious patterns that keep feelings locked up in holding patterns. Your guides are anxious to help you expand and move past these old grievances to live in your gifts rather than your hurts.
If you have questions about what is written here or how you can step forward into personal responsibility, please contact Rita. The earth will be fine but the rest of us are all counting on you.
Guest Blogger Paul Masidza, Marketing Director, Kenya
We hear the words mindfulness and meditation just about everywhere these days. But what does it really mean to be mindful, and how can you practice mindfulness/meditation to boost your personal and professional life?
Being more mindful has many perks. practical mindfulness is just as useful as one-on-one cognitive behavioral therapy for stress-related conditions such as anxiety. Mindfulness can relieve our perception of aches and pains, keep us more focused at work, and help us become more resilient. It’s also an ideal way to get a grip on emotions, which can affect our attention, memory and motivation.
You almost need a black belt in emotional management in today’s volatile, uncertain and ever-changing corporate landscape.
Mindfulness Meditation gives us a space between our emotions and our fight-flight-freeze reactions, however brief, and increases our ability to respond more skillfully. This can lead to a reduction in conflicts and an ability to utilize empathy to drive stronger relationships.
Being able to observe how your mind is spinning instead of quickly reacting in an upset way can certainly help us evolve. Mindfulness Meditation works wonders, but how exactly does one do it? Here are a few tips to help you tune into your inner Zen.
Soul Wisdom ‘SOUL CIRCLES’
Know what Serving is, and isn’t. There are many ways of serving correctly and the two core aspects are being an observer and being nonjudgmental about what you observe. Can you hear your breath or notice bodily sensations without trying to change them? This act of being an unbiased observer is what gives us the capacity to see things more clearly. Simply observing and acknowledging our feelings, thoughts or sensations without continuing to focus on them is important. Often we convince ourselves that we need to do something about what we’re thinking or feeling and we put our attention on them. This is where we get into trouble. We make up stories and ‘spin’ about them.
One of the most beautiful (and frustrating) things about getting quiet and waiting are the many paradoxes.
For example, you might not feel like you have the time to meditate, yet meditation makes you more productive. The more time we spend on the prolonged quiet and extended meditation being in the spirit realms, the more space we might create in our day to get things done. And what about the fact that Serving isn’t about a goal at all but it still helps you achieve more of your goals or change them altogether? It’s an invitation to let go of any goals and lean into our moment-to-moment experiences.Over time, our busy minds begin to settle, enabling us to be more present and see more clearly. So ultimately, we’re more likely to achieve more of our goals.
It is important to “just start” when you want to begin serving correctly. You could begin by working with a simple one- to two-minute of service practice every day and go from there practicing mindful/meditation can be done anywhere, anytime. The beauty of serving correctly is we can practice it in multiple ways such as sitting, standing, lying down, walking or eating, to name a few. It’s also highly adaptable to workplace environments and can be implemented in short bursts throughout your day.
Wisdom In Serving
The easiest way to incorporate Serving into your life is to find a way to connect to it on a daily basis. Being mindful is a way of Serving Love and as it says in the book, What It Means To Serve, “You do serve others and yourself and the earth and the spirit world and all of Creation whenever you serve Love.” Simple things like noticing the sensations in your body or your breath as you brush your teeth, drink water, wash dishes or drive home from work… anything you do every day on a regular basis. Pick just one or two and make it a routine.
Getting Quiet And Waiting
Many people try to get something from their practice immediately or expect to feel a certain way when meditating. That’s not how it works, Serving requires that you drop your agenda and really appreciate the moment as it is, regardless… without having to fix it or wait for it to be different.
To see a difference in how you are affected by being more in the inter-dimensional consciousness. Practice regularly and give it time. It doesn’t need to be long, it can be a few minutes a day, or a few hours but the effects build over time and become more noticeable even after just a couple months.
Don’t try too hard when it comes to being more mindful in serving, It’s called the ‘practice’ of serving correctly since it can take a while to retrain ourselves to simply observe what’s happening in inner space [thoughts, feelings and sensations] rather than unconsciously acting on them.
Anxiety doesn’t typically disappear in an instant when one begins practicing how to meditate and serve one’s own wellness. Undoing old habits can take a while, but this is well worth the time. Serving should not be a struggle. It’s quite simple but that doesn’t mean it’s easy, since we’re learning new ways.
Meditation can be an ideal tool to improve your personal and professional life something that can cause a positive ripple effect across both areas, at its core, Serving is a skill that teaches us to retrain our attention and boost concentration power. The obvious benefit is increased wellness which leads to productivity, but that’s only scratching the surface.
A Guide to Traversing the Spirit World Volume 1 – Let’s Get Real
Channeled by Rita Doyle Roberts
I thought my life had meaning and purpose,
but I didn’t start fully living it until after I died.
Wouldn’t you prefer to not be a ghoul?
I thought my life had meaning and purpose, but I didn’t start fully living it until after I died.
I’m just gonna say it… from where I sit, you aren’t looking so good. And I didn’t either, while I was on earth. And I really had no intention of changing that. But now I’m here and everything looks different from this vantage point. I thought my life had meaning and purpose, but I didn’t start fully living it until after I died.
You don’t have to wait. You can, but you don’t have to.
Continual Change IS Immortality
I thought I had it all. I pretty much did whatever I wanted, had plenty of money, ate lots of fantastic food, met interesting people all over the world. Sounds great, right? I’ve come to find out it was nothing compared to what was actually available to me. If only I had been willing to change.
I was so set in my identity, it took a sudden departure from earth to get me to even take a look at my own ways of being and where it was leading. The Laws of the Universe take no prisoners. You’re either on board or you are most decidedly not and I, as much as this may be a shock to you, was stubbornly, arrogantly disinterested in anything other than my own travel plans.
So, here I am.
There’s no negotiating with Universal Laws but there is discovery, there is exploration. In fact, those two activities are endless, even from where you are right now. I want to make this type of travel available to everyone before they pass because there are no train schedules, no crowded airports, no unexpected dysentery. There may be cancelled flights, but you only have yourself to blame for the nasty hurricane of emotional debris you might decide to blow all over your current dwelling. That will keep you grounded from any spirit travel, and it won’t lead to positive change, no matter who you have shaking in their boots to try and placate your repeated rages.
That’s the beauty of the Spirit World. There’s no room for blowhards or badasses if you want to get anywhere. You want to let go a string of complaints at the gate? See ya. Whine about your accommodations? Prepare to stay an extra year. No obsequious, other-speaking servant is going to come and make everything pretty for you. If you want to come along, you gotta carry your own bags until you’re ready to let them go.
This isn’t the whole story. I only know what I’ve learned so far. If you want to know more, go find a different tour guide. I’m fine with that. But if you want to know at least this much, come along. Bring all your fear of flying with you, because leaving it at home will only keep you grounded, tethered, chained and bound like the submissive half of an S&M couple that you are to the dominatrix named Fear. Bring it all… your fears, facades, and rigid beliefs. Pack them up, lock your suitcase, do whatever you do… then prepare to have it all undone and exposed because that IS your passport.